What personal core values are and why they are so important?
What’s most important to you? Your core values determine how you answer this question. Core values guide our behaviours, decisions, and actions. Your values are a part of you and they highlight what you stand for. Living in harmony with your personal core values creates a fertile environment for happiness, peace of mind, and success because you are living authentically without confusion, guilt, or shame. When we don’t honour our values, our mental, emotional, and physical state suffers.
Our values are constantly reflected in the way we choose to behave. Our values are extensions of ourselves. They are what define us. Values are the fundamental component of our psychological make-up and our identity. We are defined by what we choose to find important in our lives. We are defined by our prioritisations.
– Mark Manson, author of The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F**K
When it comes to reflecting your values through your work, your core values ultimately define the character and brand of your service. Core values are what support the vision of your business and help shape its culture. When you communicate your core values – for example, through your vision and mission statement – you will be educating your clients and potential clients about what you want to achieve by providing the service you offer, and clarify the identity of the business.
Most of us don't know our values. We don’t understand what’s most important to us and without undergoing a discovery process, it’s challenging to identify your personal core values.
How to uncover your Personal Core Values
Uncovering your personal core values is one of the most important and eye-opening exercises you can perform. It can take a little bit of time but be patient with the process. You will gain so much from what you discover. The important thing is to be really honest with yourself as there is no ‘right or wrong’ answer. We are just getting to know ourselves, and understanding weaknesses is just as important as highlighting strengths.
You will discover your core values through the following six steps:
Self reflection – going inward (by answering questions provided below)
Get familiar with core values (by using the list provided below)
Identify core themes
Narrow it down, prioritise, and narrow it down again
Test the ecology of each value
Define how you will put each value into action
Let’s begin!
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Self reflection
Below is a list of questions I would like you to answer that will help you to uncover what values are important to you.
What qualities would I expect to see in the best version of myself?
What gives me a sense of fulfillment and meaning?
How would my best friend describe me in terms of what they think my values are?
Who is the person in your life that you most admire? What qualities do you see in them that you aspire to?
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Get familiar with personal values
We will now get more familiar with personal core values. I now want you to spend some time reading this list of core values. Copy and paste this list into a word document and when you do not immediately find a connection with a value, delete it.
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List of Core Values
Accountability
You take responsibility for your actions and their consequences, and you respect others who do the same.
Awareness
You take pride in your conscious awareness of what exists or is happening around you – as well as within you.
Balance
You want everything in your life to be in the right proportion to everything else; no one thing dominates your life.
Beauty
You make time to enjoy everything you perceive with your senses that makes you feel an inexplicable surge of happiness.
Boldness
Those who are bold aren’t necessarily fearless; they’re just good at giving the impression that they are.
Calmness
Think of the stillness of a lake’s surface when nothing disturbs it.
Cleanliness
Essentially, this is the absence of any filth or contaminant — and you work to maintain it.
Closeness
This word implies intimacy or a strong personal bond, especially between people.
Commitment
Commitment is the difference between a goal and a daydream; it involves decisive action.
Compassion
When someone has hurt you, you value sympathy and forgiveness more than the chance to punish them.
Confidence
You have unshakable faith in your own powers or rightness of purpose or a strong desire to feel that faith.
Connection
Without a deep, personal connection, you can’t feel attracted to someone.
Consciousness
Living intentionally means living consciously, but you may be seeking consciousness on a higher level.
Contentment
Contentment is a mental or emotional state of satisfaction wrapped in peacefulness.
Cooperation
You value your ability to work toward a common goal as part of a team; meaningful collaboration is central to your mission.
Courage
Courage is the ability to do what needs to be done in spite of fear.
Creativity
Creativity uses the imagination to create new things and find new solutions to problems.
Decisiveness
You place a high value on your capacity for making decisions quickly and effectively.
Determination
Determination is a firmness of purpose in spite of challenges in the relentless pursuit of a goal.
Dependability
Others can count on you to do everything possible to keep your commitments, and you want the same from them.
Dignity
You feel strongly that people should be treated in a way that show’s respect for them as fully conscious equals.
Diligence
Someone who is diligent is persistent and careful in his work or other efforts.
Discipline
Think of this as a set of expectations for yourself or others and the means used to enforce them.
Discovery
This is the act of finding out or learning something new through exploration or experimentation.
Diversity
You’re committed to exposing yourself to and appreciating the diversity of cultures, experiences, and beliefs in the world.
Duty
Think of the moral or legal obligations that bind you or someone else — and your commitment to seeing those obligations are met.
Education
Consider this the process of learning through study, exploration, instruction, experimentation, or recreation.
Effectiveness
Something is effective if it succeeds in producing the desired result.
Empathy
You feel what others feel, and you probably consider this empathic value as an essential part of your identity.
Encouragement
You cherish the ability to give hope to others and build up their confidence.
Excellence
To excel is to be outstanding in something or to have an exceptional degree of some knowledge or ability.
Experience
This can be a felt encounter with something or the foundation of your superior knowledge and understanding of something.
Expertise
You embrace the title of expert in your field because you excel in your knowledge or skill
Exploration
If you enjoy traveling in or through new places to learn about them, you have the heart of an explorer.
Fairness
With your strong sense of justice, you insist on equal pay for the same amount and quality of work.
Faith
Faith is complete trust in someone or something, and it stands apart from both fanaticism and complacency.
Flexibility
You place a high value on your ability to bend easily without breaking — physically, mentally, or emotionally.
Focus
You pride yourself on your ability to focus on something (or someone) to the exclusion of everything else.
Freedom
Freedom is the ability to do what you must without interference from external or internal forces.
Frugality
You take pride in the way you handle your finances and in your avoidance of waste and unnecessary expenditure.
Fun
You look for ways to delight or amuse others to enhance their enjoyment of life — and your own; making time for fun is a priority.
Generosity
You enjoy giving of yourself and of your time and other resources to others, and you want to pass along this value to your children.
Gratitude
It’s vitally important to you to show thankfulness and express your appreciation for the good things in your life.
Growth
You invest a considerable amount of your time and energy in your own personal development and in that of others.
Happiness
Experiencing and sharing joy, satisfaction, and contentment are high priorities for you.
Health
You prioritize a wholesome diet and an effective fitness regimen. You might start running or some other easy-to-begin workout to solidify health habits. You also recognize the value of self-care to your well-being.
Honesty
You place a high value on truthfulness in others, and you’ve made sacrifices to develop or preserve this quality in yourself.
Hopefulness
You pride yourself on your optimism or sanguine perspective on the future.
Humility
Humble people base their self-worth on what they know to be true about themselves, and this makes them immune to the opinions of others.
Humor
You prioritise laughter for yourself and seek to bring more of it to others.
Integrity
Integrity is when your actions and words are in congruence with your beliefs.
Intimacy
Intimacy can refer to close relationships or to activities that bring two people closer together.
Intuition
Gut-level directions and insights are your 24-7 copilot (or maybe even your pilot).
Kindness
You treat people exactly as you would want to be treated, and your kindness attracts others.
Leadership
The motto, “Throw me to the wolves, and I’ll return leading the pack” resonates strongly with you.
Learning
You find opportunities for learning everywhere you go, and you can’t imagine your education ending before you do.
Love
To show and to experience love in its fullness is inseparable from your will to live and your sense of self.
Loyalty
You expect the people close to you to be unwavering in their faithfulness, just as you are to them; loyalty is love put to the test.
Mindfulness
Living in the present moment and enjoying all the good things in it — with intention and gratitude — is vital to you.
Moderation
You enjoy all good things in modest or measured amounts — all the better to savor them and leave more for others.
Motivation
You breathe in motivation throughout the day and keep the fire in you stoked and ready; you also love to motivate others.
Openness
You leave your eyes, your mind, and your heart open to new people, new knowledge, and new experiences.
Optimism
You believe your tendency to focus on blessings and expect more of them is more in alignment with the truth than pessimism.
Organisation
You value order — keeping everything in its place and making it easier to keep your spaces clean, clutter-free, and calming.
Originality
You love the novelty and buzz of new ideas, adventures, and artistic expressions; you breathe originality into each new creation.
Passion
You feel fully alive and electric about your life, your purpose, your relationships, and the work you do.
Peacefulness
Life is too short to spend it in turmoil; let there be calm, forgiveness, and harmony within you and in your relationships.
Persuasiveness
You value the power of communicating effectively and persuading others to do things or to share your perspective.
Professionalism
Professionalism is kindness in a business suit; you treat your customers, coworkers, and other contacts as equals.
Reason (or Logic)
Dismantling poorly-constructed arguments and countering them with effective reasoning is your Legoland.
Resilience
Your life motto could be “Use it,” because no pain or mistake is ever wasted — and you never give up.
Respect
Whether it’s authority, accomplishments, or service, you feel compelled to honor it with a certain degree of deference.
Sacrifice
You know that real love involves sacrifice — giving up something good for something better or to serve someone else.
Security
You want to feel free or safe from danger or the threat of violence to you or to those you care about.
Sensitivity
Your greater susceptibility to pain comes with a greater receptivity to beauty and inspiration.
Sensuality
You’ll try anything once and some things on a daily basis, if possible — just to enjoy the sense experience.
Serenity
You value your peace of mind so much, you prioritize words and actions that help you preserve it.
Significance
It’s not enough for you to get stuff done; that stuff has to have deep personal meaning or it has to contribute to a meaningful goal.
Simplicity
You like to keep things simple and to expel things from your life that make you feel cluttered inside or tied down by a million threads.
Sincerity
You’re drawn to genuine people, even if they’re not always nice; you admire their authenticity and work to emulate it.
Spirituality
You believe not only in the existence of spirits but also their power and your ability to connect with others through your own.
Stability
You need to feel that each step will meet solid, level ground; you hate uncertainty and imbalance and look for ways to correct both.
Strength
You cultivate bodily strength as well as inner fortitude, and you recognize and admire it in others.
Structure
The best stories (and buildings, etc.) have a solid, reliable structure, and you appreciate this when you see it.
Success
Essentially this word means you’ve obtained the results you wanted — ideally without doing something you’ll regret.
Support
You want to feel supported by others, and to be the kind of person others can count on for support when they need it.
Sympathy
Rather than rush to judgment, you put yourself in the other person’s shoes and try to see the situation from their perspective.
Thoughtfulness
You put thought into the gifts you give and the actions you take for others, and you appreciate it when others do the same.
Thrift
You spend as little as you can on everything from food to clothing to that new (to you) used car — regardless of your income.
Timeliness
You value other people’s time and expect them to return the favor by being punctual and finishing things in a timely manner.
Trust
You want people to know they can count on you to keep their secrets and have their backs, and you want to be able to expect the same.
Understanding
When you truly know someone or something, you comprehend them with your heart as well as your mind.
Uniqueness
You delight in your own uniqueness, and you enjoy helping others appreciate how they are unique and why it matters.
Usefulness
You value utility in the things you hold onto. You also strive to make yourself useful when the situation calls for it.
Virtue
You appreciate virtue when you see it in others, and you work at cultivating it in yourself.
Vision
You see things most others miss, and you pursue things most others consider impossible.
Warmth
Warm and messy trumps cold and immaculate every time; it’s all about the people.
Wealth
You want to never have to wonder, “Do I have enough in the bank?” Wealth means living your life without being limited by money.
Wisdom
True and profound insights into people and things are a defining characteristic for you — or one you greatly admire in others.
Worthiness
You feel renewed when someone or something reminds you of your worth.
This is a process of elimination. You will most likely have many left after the first elimination round, and that is to be expected. We will further narrow these down as we go along.
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Identify core themes
Now that you have removed values that you don’t immediately identify with, look through what is left. You will see that some words have similar meanings or fall into a specific “theme.” Group these words together and give them an overarching value word. For example, the words calmness, simplicity, and peacefulness may fall under a “mindfulness” theme.
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Narrow it down.
From the list you have created above, narrow these down to 5. If you are finding this challenging think of the ones that you use everyday, that influence you most and remove the rest.
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Prioritise them.
See if you can rank your list of personal core values so you clarify what is most important.
These are your top 5 personal core values!
If you are feeling a bit unsure, complete extra step below to ensure they are the right ones.
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Test the Ecology of Each Value
Once you’ve completed your list of core values, walk away from them and revisit them the next day after a good night’s sleep. Review your list:
How do your values make you feel? Do you feel good about living by these values everyday?
Are they consistent with who you are? Do they align with the work that you do?
Are they personal to you? Can you see how you live out these values everyday?
S T E P: S I X
To each Core Value, add a sentence or two of how you action these through your business.
Congratulations! You have now found your top 5 personal core values! It is recommended that you look at these each year to see if they still resonate in the same way with you. They can be updated and adapted over time. Print these out and keep these close. You can add them to your website or share them on social media. If you are recruiting, share them with prospective employees, and with anyone else you are collaborating or partnering with, such as designers & coaches.
Just one last thing…
Why You Need To Establish Your Values
Ultimately, knowing your core values is essential to knowing yourself, and the power you possess. Knowing those values is a prerequisite to creating a life in alignment with them. In order to live intentionally, you need to be aware of the values behind your own words and actions, and the values you want to see in yourself.
The more your life aligns with your core values, the more able you are to discover your purpose, to grow in that direction, and to contribute in the way only you can.